Have you ever wondered if you made a different choice, said a different thing, said what you really mean, how would your life look like now? Would you be able to say that you are living your life with the choices you made? And what about the other, parallel reality where your evil twin lives?

I say evil twin because I believe that we all have both good and bad within us. If you actively choose to be a better person, to have discernment, to listen and observe then I guess you are choosing and nurturing the good twin, that good side of you. Does this mean that people who feed and nurture the evil twin are evil and bad people? And what about those who are balancing between both twins? Do they use discernment too?

I believe it’s important to feed the good in us, to weigh in and choose the kinder, better option. This world certainly needs kindness more than anything else right now. But this also comes with notes. In order to be a good person, you still need to put boundaries and that does not make you evil. As a people pleaser, it could make you feel evil and unkind, but it’s not. These boundaries do not have to be harsh and direct. At first, it could be just cutting the access to you, your energy, your kindness. In order to be a good person, you must be good to yourself too. And this is very hard for people pleasers. Because you are always threading lightly between erasing boundaries and being too understanding. Again, you can be kind and reinforce boundaries because not everyone deserves your energy. Especially people you think you have history with, so you owe it to them, or you owe it to history, which is even worse. The same thing applies to family members. Yes, our families want the best for us and usually they have our best interest at heart, but not everything they say needs to be accepted and absorbed. You know yourself better than anyone else.

Which brings me back to the evil twin. Do we see evil twin in our world leaders, do we see it in people who hurt us? And do they let their intrusive thoughts win or in their heads they think they are doing good? I think this is really hard to tell, because we might never know. If I let my intrusive thought win, would it eventually lead me, brick-by-brick to the evil me or to a different choice and consequently, result? And what kind of reality is that twin living? I think it boils down to the same thing. Whatever you feed your soul to, it will multiply.

And what about those who are an embodiment of both? I like to think that these kinds of people are calculating everything, every move, every choice is carefully studied and then executed. Those are the people who may seem kind and good at first, and mostly they are, but you can also sense and see the other twin lurking. Everything is just a big Excel sheet where they have all the formulas and possibilities linked to one another. And also, they are probably playing a role with everyone, depending on the environment. It’s quite tricky, because you can see that they are good, but you can also see that they are not. Probably the trickiest personality to encounter.

So, what’s your twin of choice?