Do you or someone you know have a person in your life who is always trying to prove something, like their life depends on it. But I often wonder what the cause could be, is it something related to their childhood, or a complex, or anything really. Are you really a bad bitch if you don’t talk back? Who even cares about these things?

For example, my friend was describing a situation she had that includes her child and a random woman and her dog. She said that her child started running after the dog as all kids do, but the woman said to her to control her child because he is scaring her dog with running after him. Now, my friend got upset and said to her child to stop that and to move away from the grass because there is dog poop there. Now, the woman didn’t say anything wrong if you think about it. She probably just didn’t want to lose her dog. Nobody is right and nobody is wrong in this situation.

I just find it exhausting when you try to explain yourself, talk back or prove a point. Because why would I waste my energy on some stranger and her dog or some stranger and her child, when I can just ignore and go about my day. My friend is that person who is always trying to prove a point. She is always trying to prove that she is right as if being right is paying her bills.

You have many people like that; she is not the only one. But my question is, where is this coming from? Where in your life you are not being seen or acknowledged? I’m pretty sure that it all stems from a childhood or some area in our life where we don’t feel seen or important, so we try to overcompensate with being important elsewhere. I think it’s the same with colleagues or people who are only important when they reach the certain role in the company or when they try to accomplish something they couldn’t before when they felt irrelevant or small.

It all comes from within and I strongly believe that we all have a mission to work on ourselves and overcome difficulties put on the path before us. Because what is life without the obstacles? If everything was perfect, then it would be boring? Or my point of view is distorted?

I am not against standing up for yourself and defending yourself in situations when this is necessary, but not every action requires a reaction. Sometimes, you need to ignore for the sake of your own peace. Imagine reacting to each and every bad driver you encounter on your way to work? You’d be in shambles or in a psych ward. I also don’t believe in “being a bigger person” because some people need to know their place. I, for instance regret that I have been kind to people who absolutely didn’t deserve it. There is no such thing as “kill them with kindness”. The only thing being killed is your peace of mind. You smile and nod but eat yourself away while the other person just goes about their day like they didn’t just hurt your feelings. No. Discernment comes in these situations. So, you need to know when to react and when to observe, because some situations do not require your reaction. But some do. As my aunt says “brain – tongue coordination is the most vital one”.

I don’t know if anyone spends so much time observing and analysing human behaviour as I do, but it’s fascinating how everything we carry inside ourselves is very visible to the person who can read people. We think we can hide our insecurities and doubts, but it’s impossible to hide cause if you are in tune with yourself, you are in tune with others as well.